I am always writing about women and saying so much about us. I guess it's easier to understand something you are before you can understand anything else.It's a real situation for everybody out there. Everyone has a time when they are curious of their identity. How often, all the same do we work with the reality? Or do we just let our minds be clouded by the illusion of what we would like. Because there is the way we assume life works and then there is how it actually works. We haven't lived before, unfortunately. Yet we so quickly brush the idea of historical aid because we lack patience. We want to have something and have it now. But recognize how we are built. We, the epitome of God's creation.
It doesn't take one day to.know who we are,we live years so it's something you learn over time. I mean even the bible says we are 'wonderfully complex' so we deserve time and energy to comprehend ourselves. It is a good thing to take time to learn yourself and those around you. I use the bible a lot, why? Because it's the only thing so similar to a manual. I don't know about everyone else but it has advice that works for life. And life is hard so I'll take all the help I can get. Any day. You do not need to be a Christian to take advice. If advice is good, it is good and we only live once. You must have realized how we go around looking for answers only to realize that what we 'discover' is just too familiar. Feels like working a millstone.Then, we remember, someone took his time to write it down for us, all you need to be is literate and read. I mean, that is what fathers do for their offspring, try to make their lives easier in any way possible. Pass on knowledge.
So in my quest to understand who I am as a young woman, I hope to spill it over to my audiences. Both male and female. We often misunderstand one another. Being competitive instead of complementing one another. Recently the marriage bill was passed and the first thing that crossed my mind was, why would anyone sit and think, 'more than two wives?' And for a moment I felt trampled on, what a conspiracy, Lol. Well, not really, but it is a misunderstanding. Yes, I am ashamed of our government. Why? Because even God respects a woman's say in marriage.
I understand that Christian and Attorney General marriages may be exclusive but polygamy is still unrealistic. Marriage sounds like a business partnership 75% to 25%. One of the parties has greater voting rights. Am I exaggerating how bad the situation is? I don't think so, because a woman is wholly human. As human as a man is. She has basic human rights for which she is being played here. You cannot make decisions for another human being on the assumption that you are right. You involve her in it, if she agrees, good. If she doesn't, let it go. Really. Look at Sarah and Abraham, the lady asked her husband to take Hagar as a concubine but realize, she was Abraham's wife first, then she asked. The next thing was that she analyzed her husband's concubine and did not like that her son would inherit with Isaac. So Sarah asked Abraham to send Hagar away. How confusing is that? Even abraham was astounded. He could have easily defended Hagar. He wanted to, but God said. 'Do what Sarah asks.' You know how hard that was for Abraham? Yet he did it.
Now, what kind of woman would ask for her hubbys concubine to be sent away when she gave that concubine to him? A jealous one. Sarah was a good woman, but even she couldn't share her husband with another woman. At least not in the long term. But some women actually get along? Yeah, because the situation forces them to. Not out of their own free will. This means they have no choice, a man 'set them up.' Even God knew that the two women couldn't dwell together. Not in the same household. Furthermore, I do not think Hagar was sincerely happy being away from her baby daddy. Lol. So polygamy will give you quantity, but it will deny you a quality marriage, it will deny you peace of mind and drain the life out of you. I don't know how Hagar lived for the rest of her life because Abraham married Keturah after Sarah's death. So there is the reality. And yes for every choice there is a price to pay. And this here, is the reality, not the illusion.
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