Mwanaume ni effort.

I like a man who puts effort at getting a lady and keeping her.  I like a guy who cares about how he looks when he meets her. Those guys who will clean up and buy mint just because you are coming around. That's sweet. It's the small things, yes they mean a lot. That is the kind of stuff that makes a girl smile and want you. So men who be complaining about,  I can't do that for a girl, is she that special? Or is it necessary, she still will like me! That my friends is a turn off. It is something: , if someone makes you smile for nothing and brightens your day, surely you should attempt to make them smile too if you want them to like you.

Simply put, women aren't just human but they are affectionate. We love affections and we react well to them. Being affectionate does not make any man less himself or weak. In any case, the strongest man that ever lived failed terribly with women because he didn't know a few things. Like yoh never tell a woman 'I don't do that and this for my sister or parents why should I do it for you? Oh you done failed, smoothly slided to a pit.' Samson was a great guy with all his being a nazarite. I bet he had physical attributes like no one in his city. He sounds like a guy qith serious manly charm. So I am assuming he met a lot of women and knew a great deal about them. Before he met Delilah,  Samson had another wife, in the process of the wedding which apparently took weeks, he met the men in her city, his in laws. He posed a riddle to them. Samson had killed a lion with his bare hands and found honey in its corpse some days later when he passed by it and so he came up with a riddle that only he knew. He challenged his in laws and these people could not find the answer for days. So Samson's bride asked him what his riddle meant, he refused to tell her. Now thay was not the problem, the problem was what he said to her when he refused to tell. He said 'I cannot tell you, I have not told my father and mother.' Do you know how often that happens? Men telling they women 'I haven't done that for my parents what makes you think I'll do it for you?' And I respect parents with great awe,  but when you grow into an adult and decide you want a spouse,  your spouse come first. Why? My parents brought me up! Yeah but now you left them. And realize that women don't mean disrespect them, they mean work your priorities right. Boys don't come before your woman and girls before your man. That's just how it works. So yeah, a woman who makes you happy, who you love, she is very special.
Now Samson's bride was disappointed because she probably didn't feel like a priority, the brother was tripping.  No she didn't diss his parents or disrespect them. She wept on Samson to tell her his riddle for seven days. Today you'd call it nagging.  She nagged and nagged and nagged until he couldn't take it any more and he broke. When he told her his secret, she told her clansmen and Samson lost his bet. Apparently he was going to get a lot of fancy clothing which was probably the day's thing. The girl didn't sell him out because she didn't love him, she did it to make him pay for making her feel less of a priority in a very reckless manner.  If he had not told her and simply didn't talk so carelessly then she'd probably get it from him but protect him. Stay loyal to him. That's how you get someone to be loyal,  make her feel special, protect her place with you Lol. The riddle was, 'out of the eater came something to eat and out of the strong came something sweet.' Oh women love a strong and sweet guy and being sweet doesn't mean you aren't strong. We love us a guy who tries for you whether it works out or not, effort.  So strive to have adventure with these things. It's a biblical character cause personal examples may be thought overimagined. You got tp admit, this sister can preach though. Hehehe, have a lovely day.