I hear some of my friends say 'supposing you did not have this or that? Supposing you never had friends? Would you still survive? You know that sort of relative comparison that makes you feel comfortable in life. The allegory that molds independence and self sufficiency. It is the culture of the post modern society. Too rampant to be ignored. The funny thing is how awfully misleading and unreliable for the real such thinking is for the world we live in. It denies us a very important aspect of life. The very quality of living. How? One argues that life could be worse than it is, so it is okay to just be where you are. See, the problem with being comfortable is that you do not push further. It denies one the very essence of success, motivation. I think people should know what they want and work for it. One has to understand what he or she woks for in order to push a plan.
Now with friendship the argument goes that no one owes loyalty to you. Friendship or other relationships are a privilege in the least but I disagree. No human being should ever have to live with a mentality like this. Why? Because the world around us tells a different tale. Read it like a life map. Let creation tell you something, animal behavior and mannerisms of the universe. I realize that most human thought is an inch deep and should ne thought through before application. In a way, we are programed to know the truth when we hear it. So this is a little something I believe about human beings.
First we are created, meaning there is someone out there who knows and understands our complex being. This means also, that we have never been alone in this universe. Then there is the Godhead, because am a Christian and this is the most amazing feature of God. That even the Creator has never been alone. He is three persons living in one another. Now these three persons do not only live in one another but they WHOLLY live in one another that is why we say God is One. If our Creator doesn't exist alone but is united in His three persons even before creation, then it means that we cannot live alone. We cannot be islands. It means that we depend on one another somehow. It also means that friendship is not something we want. It is something we need, love is a need it is like air to our lungs. This is why I disagree that a human being should put himself or herself in a position of working alone. It does not bring out strength, it makes one vulnerable to psychological torture. It is like breaking one's leg during practice in order to prove that you can run with a broken leg. I believe we should allow ourselves to have people in our lives that we care about and that care about us in return. Our friends should not be people we count ourselves lucky to be with and people we sacrifice too much for and get nothing in return. A human being is capable of giving and receiving kindness, love and friendship because that is how we are created. I know it because the Godhead is so.
Now of course we cannot say that we live in a world where all this is present. In any case, the world moves dangerously close to the extinction of trust. We are an untrusting people an angry people. We say things that show only how distrustful we are. This is how a society goes down. When we fail at achieving the intangible things and they reflect in our tangible world. How many times have you said 'I do not trust my parents, or sibling?' I mean some of us do not even trust the people we date. Why are you even with him or her? That is hurting yourself for no reason. A clear life is a good life. It is a stress free and a healthy life. Define and redefine your friendships your relationships with people. Do not stay where you are not completely wanted. I emphasize completely. Try also and make your friendships work because you just do not want them, you need them.
