Keeping Up With The Kenyans

The Lady Bug

So, here I am again, with the ladies and the drama. No, here we are again, the mini-midi skirt and dress affair. I do not understand the world well, of course that is the main reason I am flashing my newly done nails all over the keyboard trying to grasp a thing or two. Yes, I am wearing fake nails for the first time and they are awesome looking. The problem is, I can barely type and it is quite frustrating when you are used to typing with your eyes off it and you are certain you'd win some money on a fast typist bet. But guess what? even though I take longer pulling my jeans up,(I should go mini sketi oh, it is too easy to put on) and bae gets mad when I touch him with my talons. They look so awesome that I change my mind when the nail clipper is just one centimeter away. Lol. Well, he likes them, he just doesn't 'feel' them. 

 

I do it 'cause I like to. It is a girl thing and once in a while we like to be oblivious of the world around us and be ourselves, have a little fun. Don't you see mother nature getting wild and blowing herself in a whirlwind on the streets? She does that too and rarely when another girl is in a mini, oh she does that without a care in the world. I admire them short skirts and the trendy midi dresses, as a matter of fact, I have got myself a number of them three quarters down,but something will always be associated to something, right? So the midi dress and skirt is decent and trendy as it is the outfit of the socialite and the 'grown' woman. Lord, it is so Kim K and that is just funny 'cause I thought that I keep up until someone used the abbreviation KUWTK and I was clueless. Let's just say, I keep up with the Kenyans and it is a different world here.

 

So with us Kenyans, the timeless mini is no longer the bomb 'cause the clock just ticked to blow the whole place up. We were playing in the field when we heard commotion, she was screaming something about her clothes. It was the men, the men stripped her naked. 'What! team mafisi imefika hapo?' So team Mafisi comes on air later in the afternoon news. Bad pun. Their leader appears on the screen and denies the allegations claiming that the hooligans who did it are not a part of mafisi. 'Mafisi is a movement of sound people who like to play teased, around beautiful ladies. We only play along and any party that 'catches feelings' is no member or associate of Mafisi' stated the bubbly leader who later joined the campaign against patronizing our women's dress around the country. In his opinion, men are created to protect women and not to harass them and even though their nature can be provoking, women are always a joy to be around. Interesting.
 
Feminine beauty, like life and the world we live in is a mystery. We can only understand it so much. The idea is to revel in its graces with all the respect that one can muster. The key word being respect. For masculinity primarily claims respect, then it is only natural to assume that it breeds the same. It is as mysterious as feminine beauty and the controversies of feminism and sexism do not make it any easier. All I understand is we are beautiful and our beauty is in who we are. While both sexes understand decency, there is human reason to measure its extent. A woman is mature enough to understand this and knows just when she is wearing what and so does a man. A woman's beauty lies no longer in the length of her dress but in her own understanding of her actions. Since our society has reached this point then we know also the actions to take if offended by dress and that does not involve stripping. After all, our men aren't savages but the people who defend us and the people we take pride in. Kenyan men are good blokes. A topic for another day...For now I am off to trying more skirts since it is the only thing I can easily pull off. Yes, my wardrobe is full of jeans and crop tops, sweaters and hoodies here and there so I am not planning to start very high above the knee. Mwendo ni aste aste. That Mafisi leader said hi.

Why Every Lady Should Work Out

'My dreams are valid' I remember telling a friend of mine. What dream? To have a six pack.  It is not really a dream of mine, it is only a small goal I have set for myself even though I cannot stop thinking about the lean permanently sucked in tummy. See these are some of the reasons why I believe every lady should work out.

1. Goals Goals!
As long as you are working towards something you are definitely  making progress in life no matter how small your steps are. But hey, life is more dynamic now so darn the baby steps you may want to cat walk  take them strides. Aim for the sun you may land on the moon, applies perfectly for this situation. Even losing weight is a thing of the mind it helps you set a goal and work toward it. See, you become a disciplined person. They say confidence is an accessory I say hardwork and focus, fun and faith. I believe a health goal is as serious as a career goal or any other goal we like to make seem very important. A six pack.is no vanity, but that's mine, what's yours?  Why shouldn't we take care of our bodies, right?

2. Who Brings Sexy Back?

Every girl wants to fit in a certain dress and feel good in it. I don't disregard plus size women, there is a beauty in chubby. But working out has less to do with chubby or slim and more to do with confidence. If you are working out consistently, u are working hard and that is good enough don't matter how many units you lose. A woman who works hard? A woman who knows what she want? A woman who is confident in her skin? Beat that! You see, being at the gym sweaty and going may not be fun the first few times but it will yield something. Self confidence is built before it is handed on.

3. Clear Your Head
I believe the emotional state of a woman determines a great deal of her actions in her daily life. This is the one place where your body opens up to renewal and so does your mind. Whenever you want to clear your head, I've told you where you got to be. See it is also killing two birds with a stone because you channel your emotions and stay fit at the same time.

4. Damages Damages!
I am no sexist but I know how destructive an idle woman is. Never allow yourself to be idle at any time, see these are the small things that should take up your time. 'There are 12 hours in a day and enough trouble for every one of those hours' if you choose to be idle you are guaranteed more trouble so why not cause it with sexy. Now every once in a while you are bound to have a little spare time. Forget your episodes of 'Keeping Up With The Kardashians' and do something constructive literally speaking, on your body.

5. Extra Curricula activities
So far, it is health and self confidence that took you to the gym but while you are at it, learn a few things. Learn a sexy dance on the mirror. An awesome flexibility stunt. Get in touch with your other side.

Well, I am still working on my six pack like that.

5 Reasons Why You Should Date A Geek

1. He is smart

Let's start with the most basic nerd attribute . They are smart, every woman is partly sapio sexual. It is a fact that the level of intelligence in a man matters when it comes to winning the ladies. It doesn't matter if all you see is his lips moving and can't catch a word he says. Learn a few things, do not overdo it, just be in a position to provide an opinion on basic matters.  Be ready to learn also from him, after all a woman should never date a man she cannot learn a thing from.Plus the only thing worse than a blonde is a dumb man.

2. Geeks Appreciate You

They are boyfriend material. See, 'smart is the new cool' will never work, more women will still parade themselves for the overrated guy, give yourself a break, trust me, the nerd is much better. Nerds don't meet a lot of women that are interested in them. Not because they aren't attractive but because most women get bored by their calculus, programming  and hemispherectomy vibe. What you need to do is show interest in what he does to the extent you can. Again, don't exaggerate and end up making a fool of yourself.

3. Geeks are the most loyal men alive

Are they tired of discovering? I don't think so. So make yourself discoverable he'll dwell on you like a fine project. I do not judge a man's ability to be loyal by the number of women he has had in his life. A man's loyalty is measured by how committed he is to what he loves. The fact that he is very committed to his developer projects is a reason to believe he will be committed in a relationship. All a man like that needs is a woman worth that commitment. I am not saying play wife, you cannot afford to be too available or he will get bored, give him something to look forward to.

4. They got game.
Yes I mean just that. It is sexual energy that drives the brain. A person's libido is proportional to his intelligence. Nuff said girls.

5. He has got good genes

Well you know how genetics work, smart, healthy and probably good looks .  In the event that your relationship takes another turn, then you know what to expect of your offspring.  In case the looks dissolved in some solution in the lab, I am  certain you are pretty honey. Lol.

Daughter of My Father.

I met my father amidst a heated argument,
The man who this beauty sired
When I met my father the world covered herself with cower,
I met my father in the revel of desire, a fury like fire
When I met my father, I met the jungle's king the lion
I met my father, the voice in me unlike others, a thunder
A part of mine that lathers, with the old, wonders,
When I met my father, I heard the roar that stands above slander
I yell amidst feminine compassion, but hear the thunder of erupting lava,
I am woman, but see i am Wo his name is Man
I bear his name, I bear also his mane, a whisk and his game,
I met my father,  I met a warrior, am army's commander,
Above my head unseen, is the fierce of my father
So i met my father, I met my part, another
I met the mold of my gather, I bear his temper and his love
I am a part of his as he is of me, I am his good and his evil
And I met my father, I the child of his loins
I met the father, who's daughter I am.

Isn't This The Best Man?

A week ago, our president appeared in full army combat. Apparently, the camouflage failed him as every Kenyan noticed his vibrant and devotion to the army.  Also his outfit was glamorous and his boots, wow. Now Kenya really signed up for something when she elected him president.  I would say, he is like an employee with more than just qualifications, who comes with sophistication and the ability to accommodate others.  he is young, vibrant, very digital and most importantly capable and working. I would vote for this breed of leaders any day.  These are the kind that grow into the job, they give themselves to serve and not to boss around.

I am also impressed at the faith Kenyans show in leadership.  We have become the kind of people that open mindedly appreciate growth.So do I think that there are others out there? Yes. I have a acquired appreciation for good leadership. I believe we should never settle when it comes to leadership and should always pick the best. Electing a political leader like they say, is giving a job. When u give a job to someone you are making an investment and you should expect to see results. The panel is always seeking for the best man to employ.

Kenya did not just find a good man for the job, she also found a different person. She found a diverse man. The person of the president can safely be viewed  as a representation of everything young people have offer, given a chance. It is also the example that institutions of higher learning follow. I can't help my amazement  at how leadership in mainstream institutions such as Kenyatta University mirror this. Among our presidential candidates is a man of glamour,  a doctor and a male model. He is a young soul that is all the same full of insight.  He strikes the political arena with the conviction that he is the  fabric of a new generation of leaders that walk after rather than before his citizens. As a member of the panel, I would advise every other member to invest in a candidate like this. One who is a bridge between the adminstration and the student. A man of sound mind and the ability to state his case and that of his fellow comrades where they should be represented.  A man of the people . After all, they pay every month for this position the least they can do is pick the best man. And the best man will lead and blend. The best man will also grace his people in every good way. I am talking about one Sydney Adoli.

Daughter of The Mountains

I am brought up in the country, in the highlands where it's green
I am brought up in bounty, in all of nature's rich
I am a daughter  of the mountains, upon which the snow lives
In the heart , in the fountain, where grazeth the ostrich
I am brought up at her feet, drinking from her bossom's gushing  milk
I am brought up beneath her, who sits the three legged stool
Brought up by her, who's gentle and guards with the hoof
Her, who's friend is the mighty Guru
I am nurtured by her, she that gestures the new world
I wake up to her beauty, crowned with a crown of three peaks
I am nurtured under her wings, feeding from the very beak

But Even God isn't Alone

I hear some of my friends say 'supposing you did not have this or that? Supposing you never had friends? Would you still survive? You know that sort of relative comparison that makes you feel comfortable in life. The allegory that molds independence and self sufficiency. It is the culture of the post modern society. Too rampant to be ignored. The funny thing is how awfully misleading and unreliable for the real such thinking is for the world we live in. It denies us a very important aspect of life. The very quality of living. How? One argues that life could be worse than it is, so it is okay to just be where you are. See, the problem with being comfortable is that you do not push further. It denies one the very essence of success, motivation.  I think people should know what they want and work for it. One has to understand what he or she woks for in order to push a plan.
Now with friendship the argument goes that no one owes loyalty to you. Friendship or other relationships are a privilege in the least but I disagree.  No human being should ever have to live with a mentality like this. Why? Because the world around us tells a different tale.  Read it like a life map. Let creation tell you something, animal behavior and mannerisms of the universe. I realize that most human thought is an inch deep and should ne thought through before application. In a way, we are programed to know the truth when we hear it. So this is a little something I believe about human beings.

First we are created, meaning there is someone out there who knows and understands our complex being. This means also, that we have never been alone in this universe.  Then there is the Godhead, because am a Christian and this is the most amazing feature of God. That even the Creator has never been alone. He is three persons living in one another. Now these three persons do not only live in one another but they WHOLLY live in one another that is why we say God is One. If our Creator doesn't exist alone but is united in His three persons even before creation, then it means that we cannot live alone. We cannot be islands. It means that we depend on one another somehow. It also means that friendship is not something we want. It is something we need, love is a need it is like air to our lungs. This is why I disagree that a human being should put himself or herself in a position of working alone. It does not bring out strength, it makes one vulnerable to psychological torture. It is like breaking one's leg during practice in order to prove that you can run with a broken leg. I believe we should allow ourselves to have people in our lives that we care about and that care about us in return. Our friends should not be people we count ourselves lucky to be with and people we sacrifice too much for and get nothing in return. A human being is capable of giving and receiving kindness, love and friendship because that is how we are created. I know it because the Godhead is so.

Now of course we cannot say that we live in a world where all this is present. In any case, the world moves dangerously close to the extinction of trust. We are an untrusting people an angry people. We say things that show only how distrustful we are. This is how a society goes down. When we fail at achieving the intangible things and they reflect in our tangible world. How many times have you said 'I do not trust my parents, or sibling?' I mean some of us do not even trust the people we date. Why are you even with him or her? That is hurting yourself for no reason. A clear life is a good life. It is a stress free and a healthy life. Define and redefine your friendships your relationships with people. Do not stay where you are not completely wanted. I emphasize completely. Try also and make your friendships work because you just do not want them, you need them.

Pretty Messed Up.

I've read about the woman, the wisest man proverbs,
The woman whose strengths measure beyond they abs,
The P31, woman who isn't up for grabs
I've read about a woman that my grandfather talks about,
A woman who sings to the river and by its banks,
A woman so beautiful, she walks and they glance
Yes, she cook and work hard as she hums,
The woman my grandma said she was,
The woman that Africa hasn't lost,
I have read about her, yes she is strong,
Her family leans for help, that springeth,
She is a lily, my own mother is Lily
Grandma gave that name to her,
My mother gave me rose, yet another flower,
I have read about Sarah, nations' mother,
Shrewd for them, was she with a gold nose ring, Rebecca,
Rachel I've heard, she was worth the two setted labor,
Yes of them all I have read, I am also told,
Told of my strengths, what I should be,
The expectations, the ideal form a woman should be,
They are amused by the womb, in bearing  life, strength
I am told of it's beauty, then I look beneath,
I look into the mirror, the woman on the other side,
The woman stares tenderly sad,
Her smile deceives with discreet,
She is tired, she is broken,
She is not the image of perfection, she needs to lean,
The woman in the mirror sobs,
She lets the little girl cry, then wears her head high,
She is nothing like them, she is not their expectation,
The woman in the mirror whispers, and it breaks,
'I am a broken woman,'
The journey exhausts her, she needs not hope but love,
Yes life through another path has took her,
She will be loved, more than anything, she will love,
She will give strength to those around her, whether she has it or not,
But they fathom not, when she fails,
They do not hear of her ailing,
They shut their ears to hers misgivings,
Mother of all woes, she has wept,
Even so, she is great, she is strength.

My African State Of Mind.

The world is a funny place. All the drama going around. Do you realize how so easily controversy arises? How we do what politicians and the media want us to do? We are swept away by every piece of nonsense they give to us. So how often do you evaluate what you hear? Because there should be a filter to sieve away the chaff. That is what gives us an identity. That is what defines us. Being different and having one's own opinion about matters. As an African, I pride myself in such cultural identity, African, Kenyan to be precise. It's from here that I see the rest of the world.

I am particularly amused by Western politics. No, I do not admire their ways, I am purely a spectator. I am intrigued by how efficiently Western politicians play around mass psychology. It is even more interesting how we get caught in it. They don't choose who to play, just anyone their court passes by becomes the b.ball. They dribble you and dunk you down the loop. Look at gay people. They are a minority and so are black people. The players know they can't be playing the growth card, 'I'll bring infrastructure and laptops or free education to you' of course it's a developed country so they play the I care for minorities card, 'I stand with gay people. They have rights too. 'The Hollywood culture, it's about making people happy. Whatever makes you happy. You want to rebel? Does it make you happy? That's all that matters. No one ever pauses to ask why everything os so easy and accessible in this context. I am glad to be African. It is among the few places where people are still free to actually live. Our African state of mind is our freedom. It has us thinking, why should we be influenced to change our culture? How is it benefiting us?

Surely our culture is important. You know what else is? Other people respecting it. I got to say because gayism is creeping in. Unfortunately it is supposed to be fancy and sooner or later trendy. No I don't hate gay people but I can't honestly say I support gayism. Why? Because it's not a matter of changing times as the West would have you believe. It is a political matter. Yes they are just involving you in their quest for power. Who? Politicians who aren't even in your country. I wish people would refuse to be.influenced in this manner.The politicians aren't gay.

Do you realize how they play the 'black president card too?'  Again am African, so i appreciate a black president in a super power. Only I realize that he was used to appeal to the public. As an act of advancing other interests. A black president probably means Africans will jump at the thought. Yes we did, of course. Yet from where I am, I see a people who took away Africa's wealth by not only colonizing it but taking as much as they could from us. Yes they took slaves, minerals among other resources. I see something that belongs to us in the West and which was forcefully taken. No I am not a white person hater. Everyone is important and furthermore we need one another to exchange ideas, trade and get along. But then we need to make our continent beautiful and dance to our own music and wear our hair like we are supposed to. We should not want to identify with another group of people. We should be able to give and receive from them. No, our culture doesn't understand gayism or the Hollywood mentality and we don't need it. We need other countries to respect us. That is how they respect our culture not by forcing theirs upon us. Am not living the American dream, I am living my dream. This is my African state of mind being expressed. My opinion. I appreciate education, it is probably the only good thing the West brought. But look at the price we paid. Slaves, loss of wealth and they won't let us be with our culture.

I like our relations with the East. Some say, we don't know what the Dragon wants, maybe, but at least we maintain our cultural identity. Yes, at times I wonder what would be had we been left to be barbaric be polygamous and pagans. Things would have worked out somehow.  All the same, i appreciate education. It has aided my african state of mind.

Meet Miss Rhoda

Have we officially met? My name is Rhoda. Its etymology. It comes from Rhodes, which was a Greek Island infamous for its roses. My name technically means, rose. I think it's unique because I have very few namesakes. Rhoda was also a servant girl in the bible who received Peter the apostle when he came from jail. I have never had a nickname all my life. So I am called Rhoda. Very simple, right? So this week, I let you into my life, make an acquaintance. I haven't blogged long. As a matter of fact, I have been very lazy at it. I have only decided to put effort to it because I actually like to write. I love to write. It allows me to open up to you and share my opinion without having to look into your face. And am certain y'all look great, I am just not very bold in person. I love people all the same. I like to share ideas.

I will emphasize that I am not a feminist, because you will come across a great deal of talk about women. I am not a sexist either. My family has lots of girls. Too much oestrogen. I have been brought up around girls and I live with them,I love it. I enjoy being a woman.

Now men, don't take it wrongly, you are appreciated, but then I am those people who believe that charity begins at home. A girl has got to have her own life because we are first individuals then we are together. Apart and together at the same time. I am against women wanting to be men, why, because it is impossible then it is shallow. My philosophy, everything is made for it's unique and very specific purpose. Being a woman is not weakness, and I don't need to kill myself working too hard to prove that point, treating other people wrong. It is pitiable to look at a feminist push her ignorance to the very square where the city comes together. So do not mistake my ideology for feminism. I date men, have man crush mondays. I know how rampant feminism is but I am very much against it. That means I play for team Adam. Team Adam, has both men and women in it, but you see, when a man is the head, it means he's got the face for both of you. So in this team, we are apart and together. Apart when I am busy minding my own business being woman and together when I have discovered myself and the next person.

So this is who I am, my blog, it is about my actual opinion on matters of our daily lives. I strongly believe a woman should try to understand herself first before she can understand the next person. I also believe that men should try to understand themselves before understanding women.

So, Do you read on Sunday?

How is your Sunday? I love Sundays. I am a Sabbath baby,born on a Sunday morning , bonny and blithe, good and gay. When we used to sing songs in kindergarten, gay meant, merry. By habit, I plan my week on Sundays and am sure most of us do. It is just a day to relax, emotionally, socially and spiritually for Christians and others. So how do you spend your Sunday? With family and loved ones? That is great, do you take a few minutes to go through articles? Find new recipes, trends in fashion, read a column or two about your favorite topics? Its the start of a new week and someone would like to give you a few tips on how to be more efficient at work. Or you just want to find release from the tension ahead in advance so let a writer take your mind away.

I believe people should read an article or two on Sunday. In the evening at least, for two reasons. First, Sunday evenings are very serene. Serenity is good for a read and as you relax. Second, there are very good articles on Sunday. I am a fan of Yusuf K. Dawood' s colum 'Surgeon's Diaries'  in Sunday Nation. Mwalimu Andrew, you know those small things that actually thrill your mind? You don't have to read an entire novel, a thousand pages. Reading articles is a good way to cultivate a reading culture even in people who aren't such great readers. You don't have to own a library, yet reading is very important and good for your mental health. It helps you find release from your routine activities and see life from someone's else's perspective. It provides you with knowledge and refreshes your lifestyle in a very unique way. If you are a student, reading articles gives you a chance to expand your knowledge and lose the rigidity that omes from the use of big terms.and its monotony. It renews your mind.

There are a lot of articles on magazines and in our newspapers. The best thing is that these articles are very diverse and they provide you with a variety to select from. Writers in different fields give you different stories and amazing facts. Medicine, entertainment, economics, art but to mention a few. Kenya has a number of great writers and columns, have you seen how short Chris Hart's works are? Most of these writers are also professionals in their fields and have a great deal of new.knowledge to share. So how about a read once in a while?

What's real, what's not

I am always writing about women and saying so much about us. I guess it's easier to understand something you are before you can understand anything else.It's a real situation for everybody out there. Everyone has a time when they are curious of their identity. How often, all the same do we work with the reality? Or do we just let our minds be clouded by the illusion of what we would like. Because there is the way we assume life works and then there is how it actually works. We haven't lived before, unfortunately. Yet we so quickly brush the idea of historical aid because we lack patience. We want to have something and have it now. But recognize how we are built. We, the epitome of God's creation.

It doesn't take one day to.know who we are,we live years so it's something you learn over time. I mean even the bible says we are 'wonderfully complex' so we deserve time and energy to comprehend ourselves. It is a good thing to take time to learn yourself and those around you. I use the bible a lot, why? Because it's the only thing so similar to a manual. I don't know about everyone else but it has advice that works for life. And life is hard so I'll take all the help I can get. Any day. You do not need to be a Christian to take advice. If advice is good, it is good and we only live once. You must have realized how we go around looking for answers only to realize that what we 'discover' is just too familiar. Feels like working a millstone.Then, we remember, someone took his time to write it down for us, all you need to be is literate and read. I mean, that is what fathers do for their offspring, try to make their lives easier in any way possible. Pass on knowledge.

So in my quest to understand who I am as a young woman, I hope to spill it over to my audiences. Both male and female. We often misunderstand one another.  Being competitive instead of complementing one another. Recently the marriage bill was passed and the first thing that crossed my mind was, why would anyone sit and think,  'more than two wives?' And for a moment I felt trampled on, what a conspiracy, Lol. Well, not really, but it is a misunderstanding. Yes, I am ashamed of our government. Why? Because even God respects a woman's say in marriage.

I understand that Christian and Attorney General marriages may be exclusive but polygamy is still unrealistic. Marriage sounds like a business partnership 75% to 25%. One of the parties has greater voting rights. Am I exaggerating how bad the situation is? I don't think so, because a woman is wholly human. As human as a man is. She has basic human rights for which she is being played here. You cannot make decisions for another human being on the assumption that you are right.  You involve her in it, if she agrees, good. If she doesn't, let it go. Really. Look at Sarah and Abraham, the lady asked her husband to take Hagar as a concubine but realize, she was Abraham's wife first, then she asked. The next thing was that she analyzed her husband's concubine and did not like that her son would inherit with Isaac. So Sarah asked Abraham to send Hagar away. How confusing is that? Even abraham was astounded. He could have easily defended Hagar. He wanted to, but God said. 'Do what Sarah asks.' You know how hard that was for Abraham? Yet he did it.

Now, what kind of woman would ask for her hubbys concubine to be sent away when she gave that concubine to him? A jealous one. Sarah was a good woman, but even she couldn't share her husband with another woman. At least not in the long term. But some women actually get along? Yeah, because the situation forces them to. Not out of their own free will. This means they have no choice, a man 'set them up.' Even God knew that the two women couldn't dwell together. Not in the same household. Furthermore, I do not think Hagar was sincerely happy being away from her baby daddy. Lol. So polygamy will give you quantity, but it will deny you a quality marriage, it will deny you peace of mind and drain the life out of you. I don't know how Hagar lived for the rest of her life because Abraham married Keturah after Sarah's death. So there is the reality. And yes for every choice there is a price to pay. And this here, is the reality, not the illusion.

Mwanaume ni effort.

I like a man who puts effort at getting a lady and keeping her.  I like a guy who cares about how he looks when he meets her. Those guys who will clean up and buy mint just because you are coming around. That's sweet. It's the small things, yes they mean a lot. That is the kind of stuff that makes a girl smile and want you. So men who be complaining about,  I can't do that for a girl, is she that special? Or is it necessary, she still will like me! That my friends is a turn off. It is something: , if someone makes you smile for nothing and brightens your day, surely you should attempt to make them smile too if you want them to like you.

Simply put, women aren't just human but they are affectionate. We love affections and we react well to them. Being affectionate does not make any man less himself or weak. In any case, the strongest man that ever lived failed terribly with women because he didn't know a few things. Like yoh never tell a woman 'I don't do that and this for my sister or parents why should I do it for you? Oh you done failed, smoothly slided to a pit.' Samson was a great guy with all his being a nazarite. I bet he had physical attributes like no one in his city. He sounds like a guy qith serious manly charm. So I am assuming he met a lot of women and knew a great deal about them. Before he met Delilah,  Samson had another wife, in the process of the wedding which apparently took weeks, he met the men in her city, his in laws. He posed a riddle to them. Samson had killed a lion with his bare hands and found honey in its corpse some days later when he passed by it and so he came up with a riddle that only he knew. He challenged his in laws and these people could not find the answer for days. So Samson's bride asked him what his riddle meant, he refused to tell her. Now thay was not the problem, the problem was what he said to her when he refused to tell. He said 'I cannot tell you, I have not told my father and mother.' Do you know how often that happens? Men telling they women 'I haven't done that for my parents what makes you think I'll do it for you?' And I respect parents with great awe,  but when you grow into an adult and decide you want a spouse,  your spouse come first. Why? My parents brought me up! Yeah but now you left them. And realize that women don't mean disrespect them, they mean work your priorities right. Boys don't come before your woman and girls before your man. That's just how it works. So yeah, a woman who makes you happy, who you love, she is very special.
Now Samson's bride was disappointed because she probably didn't feel like a priority, the brother was tripping.  No she didn't diss his parents or disrespect them. She wept on Samson to tell her his riddle for seven days. Today you'd call it nagging.  She nagged and nagged and nagged until he couldn't take it any more and he broke. When he told her his secret, she told her clansmen and Samson lost his bet. Apparently he was going to get a lot of fancy clothing which was probably the day's thing. The girl didn't sell him out because she didn't love him, she did it to make him pay for making her feel less of a priority in a very reckless manner.  If he had not told her and simply didn't talk so carelessly then she'd probably get it from him but protect him. Stay loyal to him. That's how you get someone to be loyal,  make her feel special, protect her place with you Lol. The riddle was, 'out of the eater came something to eat and out of the strong came something sweet.' Oh women love a strong and sweet guy and being sweet doesn't mean you aren't strong. We love us a guy who tries for you whether it works out or not, effort.  So strive to have adventure with these things. It's a biblical character cause personal examples may be thought overimagined. You got tp admit, this sister can preach though. Hehehe, have a lovely day.

Woman thou art...

A yoke so much resembles the scales. It's a burden everyone has. Just how much does it weigh over your shoulders? And how does the extension or rather man's cloned image balance over herself? She is a new being you have no idea how new. Cliche because it's true, but the only hard thing about new stuff, is how to make it work. So woman, who art thou?

Woman, thou art blessed. Not that a man isn't but she is my topic. I am an introspectionist and even though am not talking about myself, it is an extrapolation of the image into which I am made. A woman. I am also a creationist and I believe that angels and God's elders are all males and a woman is the only female that was created of God's image. Of course from man's image. How do I know this? Simple facts, I never heard angel Suzie or Cate and I do not wish to complicate that matter. Anyway, a woman is the only daughter God has, having the rest as sons. At times she is even called a son, smh. A woman is created for the roles we know, companionship for Adam, procreation, recreation blah, blah, blah, u know it. See the weird thing is that all these roles overtake us. They displace us on our own paths so that we do not understand them.

Procreation is something that goes beyond having babies. Oh, that's my main point today. To procreate means to reproduce or to create anew. That is the ability that she was given, not only on babies but in her work as well. It means that she is capable of multiplying whatever she puts herself to and this includes career, family and anything she wishes to grace. So this is about a very contemporary matter. No it's not about contraception,  it's about work. Women and work. More precisely, career women.

Firstly, a good woman works hard. My culture, school, that's the gospel. Now whether a woman is good or not, her hard work will still pay off. The moment she decides to work, she multiplies whatever her hands touch. She is like good soil and seeds sprout at her touch like Jack's beanstalk. So, given the same opportunities, a woman is likely to make more than a man in all legit sense. There are men out there who will contend all day against a woman working hard and making more than he is and a woman who has herself together. It isn't a competition. Furthermore, there are worse problems in the society today like global warming. I just want to let women know how much good they have in them and to men, a woman who can work hard, that is a good woman.Back to the matter, and to it's heart. Brace yourself.

If a woman knew her abilities and roles then she would do so much than worry. No she doesn't have to sleep with bosses. A mistake many make all the same. It's like bargaining for something you don't need to ask for because you already have. Of course you should draft your CV like a good brand, but if you already have the qualifications then all else is unnecessary. And it's not easy but then no good thing comes so easy. A woman will however get what she is working for if she is determined enough. Always. It's her feminine grace. She wasn't made the head or given muscles and a harsh deep voice to survive on earth. She was given grace, compassion and all that.

The only way you will lead a fulfilled life is if you understand who you are. You are beautiful, you are special and you are precious. And you do not have to contend with people who ask, why are you all that? Because. I do not intend to bruise anyones ego but it is equally important for men to understand who they are. Unless you understand and seriously comprehend who you are then it's impossible to tell someone else who they are. You will be there like' who does she think she is?' When the real question is 'who does she know she is? '
Let me also make it very clear that I am anti feminist, a topic for another day. For today, the roles you are made for shouldn't define you. They are just but roles. Nevertheless, play them if you can, women's seem less domineering,  that is not weakness, it is strength. Be good at what you were made for. As for men, try to do the same because I have seen tons of you who are ever pointing fingers at women who live wrong. They are not right, but by not playing your part, you are not any better than they are. You are leaders, heads, play that. Not through intimidation and using your strengths to take advantage of what you should protect. Instead be noble even for the sake of adventure. I've met very noble men. It's just the world. You decide where to be and it's not easy. So this here, is just consolation.

THIS IS THE FUTURE

Hey good people. I've always thought I should write about something am convinced I should say but which I do not know precisely. Now that we are all planners and the people learning to live very efficient lives, do we have a time when our plans ought to happen? Most probably that time is the future because we assume that we are okay now or maybe we do have problems but then guess what we do? We push those issues ahead. For example I want to be a reseacher or a photographer but I can only picture that in the future. Now we fail to realize the immediate future, the next one step to which I put my foot. Maybe I want to be in good health and be financially stable but I still imagine my success as a thing of the future again, not the immediate but so far upon the horizon.

Not that it is wrong to look so far ahead but am thinking that the future is by defination the next second after this meaning we are constantly living in the future. We always walk with a foot forward. Only one step forward not two or three steps. My point is, we should live the future today. Do not wait for tomorrow to be a better man or woman. Each one of us has seen us lose classmates and that got me thinking no one is too old to die. With that in mind don't be planning 'I'll be happy when am making millions and I have a steady life,' If you ask me, I think life never gets easier. Life is like energy, cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be put to different forms (paraphrasing). That means the energy we have today will be the same energy tomorrow only its component is in different proportion right now. It also means tnay you can be as happy today as you will be twenty years from now. It is important therefore that right now you work your proportions right. You are economists, ypu know best how to do that :) So, live, love and laugh today. Because we are in the future.

We are born, go to school, marry or not, watch other generations come, grow and die. In our very human minds that the order but in reality it's not because death can pop anywhere. I don't mean to scare y'all, but then the insurance company tells you all this right? So on a personal level it's only right to think about your life. I wish you all the best in your endeavors. Enjoy this last few weeks before school opens.